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Are you “too awesome” for love?
So, I had a first love. I am guessing at some point we all do. I don’t usually write/think about him too much since it creates a strong emotion in me – both good and not so good. I still wonder about a lot of “what ifs” attached to the situation, and it brings a little sadness as I sit here, listening to my itunes “life-changingingly beautiful” mix and let it all roll around in there. But I digress. Today isn’t about the magic of that first love or those slow/fast moments in the beginning, when I was so excited and...
read moreBut I LOVE him….
It may be in a house, a restaurant, a coffee shop or a bar (I think maybe even a few bathrooms), but I have had the conversation many times in my life with many friends. Usually in tears, always in pain they look at me and say the words that I am waiting to hear….”I know, Kira….BUT I love him.” For a long time, I would just look at them, helpless. Offering a hug and ear if they wanted it. Not knowing what I could say because what we are talking about here is love. Love. This elusive emotion that can make...
read moreHold up Ladies! Is it REALLY That Complicated?
I think it was the genius singer-songwriter Avril Lavigne who brought up the ever important question…”Why did you have to go and make things so complicated?” Man, do we complicate things. Sometimes things are so easy, almost simple and we somehow make things harder than they are. We add feelings where they don’t exist, we think we are in love when we don’t know all of their good and not so good stuff, we have sex way too soon in a relationship (yeah…I said it), we put up a wall, get clingy, project our...
read moreReally. It’s NOT About You.
A few years ago I went on what you might call a kamikaze death mission. I felt like I was having a lot of conversations in my head around my past crushes and relationships and I was coming up empty. Looking back I spent a lot of my high school and college years in what I like to call the “pseudo relationship” I would meet someone and without ever really discussing ANYTHING we kind of tripped and fell into a relationship. Not much differently than the time I tripped and fell on that bar dance floor in college after losing the battle...
read moreTake the “Complicated” Out of Your Facebook Status
Today, I want you to take a little trip back in time to when I was in college…way back in the ‘90s. At the beginning of my sophomore year, a guy walked into Dante’s (my cool campus job) and after a malt, cheesy popcorn and lots of witty banter, I was crushin’ pretty hard. The problem was that I only knew his name and a little about him. So, I did what every other lady did back then: used Nancy Drew-like sleuthing skills (that would have impressed the CIA) and got to work. It took about two weeks, but I discovered which dorm he...
read moreAccidents: The Best Things That Can Happen To Us
It was 2006 and I was working on cruise ships. I had flown from Madison to Rome and was so jet-lagged that I couldn’t see straight. All I wanted was a nap but was instantly thrown into trainings, tours and catch up time with one of my favorite friends on earth, Amy. I have no idea how, but that night she talked me into having a couple of drinks to meet all of my new co-workers for the next three months AND check out the guy she already had a crush on. I literally was so tired that I thought I just pass out in the bar (which...
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