Finding the right person, that real connection, is so important in our lives. Most people not only want this kind of relationship, but as humans we need the love, support and appreciation that a healthy relationship offers. Yet, I see people everyday who are tired, frustrated and giving up.

They are starting to wonder if anyone is out there for them. They feel like they have tried everything and have been left with a bruised ego. They are asking: Now what? How do I change this? Is love for me?

Good news, everyone! They are out there, but you may be looking for the wrong things or in the wrong places.

I want to tell you that it is time to stop walking around with your eyes closed, hoping for the best, bumping into things, believing that one of them is “good enough” or kind of fits because the attention feels good. Maybe you are just waiting to be chosen, sitting in the corner until someone notices you.

Well, you know what? It is time to open your eyes and start becoming the person you want to date. Get rid of your checklists, rules and expectations. It is time to work on you. You know, one half of your future relationship and the only part of it you can actually control.

I am not your family or your friend who tells you that if you just “hang in there,” something great will eventually come along. I am a wake up call to tell you that love is out there for you, if you are willing to do some work to get ready for it when it comes along.

Are you ready? I am here.